MARRIAGE, LOVE, RELATIONSHIP…………
Yesterday, Sunday, 11th of March, 2007, I did the most ridiculous thing, that, sad to say, I’ve been doing all along, that is to spend my whole Sunday afternoon through till the evening, doing nothing but just watching DVDs.
What movies did I watch??
Well, first I watched “The Last Kiss”: a movie, about couples. Various couples, that you could possibly find in our society. They were about five couples, I think. Some, well, I just prefer to just keep them in the lowlight. The main couple from the movie that I wish to highlight here is the one where this GUY is turning 30 soon (the BIG 30 for most men), got himself into a situation where he totally f**ked up his GAL of three years (beautiful, smart, understanding, almost to perfect girlfriend) and got her pregnant. Well, picture this, a soon-to-be-30 GUY with a pregnant girlfriend (totally not married) and wasn’t prepared for it al all! A familiar situation that we NORMALLY could come across nowadays, right?? They weren’t really prepared for the CHILDREN thingy, but decided to keep it anyway. The GUY was so freaked out that he didn’t know what to do. One minute he’s thinking: “Oh yeah, great! I’m starting a new life with my almost-to-perfect girlfriend and we’re gona have a baby!” and another minute, he was like: “Oh damn! No more life. It’s dead-end…. that’s it! No more surprises….” And in the midst of his dilemma, here comes a stunning brunette, whom I had the impression of a b**ch, appeared, stated to have the hooks on him, seduced him, and so it goes.. Is it that when guys are really screwed up in the mind, they start to “think” with their “little willy down there”??? And yup, HE totally screwed up and slept with the brunette. Man, this a**h***!! The girlfriend’s pregnant and he can sleep around with some other girl as well?? If there is really a guy whom I know, who do this…. Oh, what a hard kick am I going to give in the a** and his “little brother” too!! And after he realized he did something that he shouldn’t, he left the brunette, and went crawling back to his girlfriend, saying that he love her, that he was sorry, bla bla blah… well, if only life is as simple as that with all the “I’m sorry.. “ and “I love you..”
When the girlfriend found out, of course she was furious, even kicked him out of the house they had been living in. How a guy would so claimed to be devoted into the relationship, saying and claiming that he loves his girlfriend, who by then should have claimed to be his better half with the fact that she is bearing his child, do such a horrible horrible unforgivable thing?? I couldn’t picture myself into it. I might kill myself when I know such a fact. What would you do if you were in the situation?? Would you kill yourself?? Abort the child and goon with your life?? Or would you keep the child and perhaps, let him take care of the baby?? Or you take care of the baby?? What would you do??
Then the second movie I saw was: Happy Feet. Might be too late to watch that movie, some may think that it was so long ago, it seemed so outdated, but no nice movie is too outdate for me J Heard their songs?? There was so much meaning to it. If only true love could be found so easily: The song of your heart…
Third movie: Confetti, a stupid dumb movie from
UK .. really dumb enough.. It was about weddings of three soon-to-be married couples, a competition-like wedding.. The most outstanding original wedding of the year would win a house worth half a million pounds. I was thinking, having your marriage, in a competition? Challenging, yet, pathetic! Oh, how the competition would totally wreck some relationships, but, how it would totally strengthen relationships to some.
But after all of the movie marathon, I do realize that MARRIAGE is not just a simple thin. Not some things that we always imagine when we were little, in fact some adults would even imagine of. MARRIAGE isn’t just the bride in a beautiful flamboyant white gowns, and bridesmaids, and all the flowers here and there, and the little doves signifying purity, the wedding rings, etc etc….. It’s not just merely walking down the aisle of the church, with people staring at you, whispering how gorgeous you look on your BIG day, not just a merely exchanging vows and saying “I DO…” exchanging wedding rings, and “I now pronounce you man and wife…” It’s something more than that. Like, having to accept the person that you are going to marry, accepting the fact that you are going to be with the person for the rest of your life, no turning back (well, I know for some people they might argue that you can divorce when you just want to get out of the marriage, but MARRIAGE is a pure thing that should be kept sacred with total care and commitment), and also being able to live in the tradition or the nature of your better half. Like in the movie Confetti, I remember vividly, a couple who are naturists, meaning that they get close to nature, and I mean REAL CLOSE to nature. When among their group of naturist, they wear NOTHING but their birthday suits, and I remember that this girl, fell in love with a naturist and had to adapt being a naturist herself. Well, though we always think that the “Ang Mos” (Westerners, Caucasians) are open minded, but, being a naturist, well, that’s not something that they could accept without thinking of the consequences either. And what more, they wanted their wedding to be the naturist style too! Bride and groom, and also guests, wear nothing but their skins. Imagine that!! Well, having to decide to get married, yes, probably you yourself could accept it, but think about your families too. Can they accept your better half?? MARRIAGE is not an easy thing!
And love….. After watching the movie “The Last Kiss”, I do realize that LOVE definitely is not just merely saying “I love you” to the one you, claim to, love…. it’s totally, totally more than that…. Love is not just the feeling you have for the person, but what you do for the person, to the person…. So people or lovers out there, what would you do/say that you love your loved one?? What do you do to preserve the relationship?? What do you do to respect the relationship?? Whatever you have done to your loved one and make him/her feel that you love him/her?? It’s MORE THAN WORDS, people.. MORE THEN WORDS….
P/s: what’s your say, readers?? What’s your say??? Share with me your thoughts and your views… You know damn well that I seldom post up a blog right… :p come on.. Do me a little favor and share your comment and your thoughts J cheers..
